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yrs now, hubby has porn we have sex maybe 6x yr. Im getting a f-buddy, my sanity can't handle the constant rejection, im 30 attractive & kind, i stay 4 the kids

yrs now, hubby has porn we have sex maybe 6x yr. Im getting a f-buddy, my sanity can't handle the constant rejection, im 30 attractive & kind, i stay 4 the kids

 
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I'm your huckleberry
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well then get one...he probably already has!
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YOU AREN'T DOING THE KIDS ANY FAVORS. YOU'RE SELFISH, YOU STAY FOR YOU, NOT FOR THEM. You will realize it when they get older and resent you for staying. Don't think for one second they don't know, and don't feel the unhappiness all around them. Too bad you won't wake up NOW.
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If he is interested in porn, any chance you could get interested in it too? I am a woman and it can be exciting to watch porn together.Many woman enjoy porn these days. Just a though....
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he needs help. tell him that as you walk out the door on your way to meet a real man who knows how to interact with an actual human and satisfy her. good luck. you deserve better.
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he sounds creepy. GROSS!
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I understand your dislike for your husband watching too much porn. But maybe the above poster is right .Try to enjoy the porn with him. I sense that your problems in your marriage go much deeper then porn though and if that is the case and you really are staying for the kids.I can tell you that as a woman who stayed for my kids it was a bad decision .After 23 years my kids tell me they would have preferred I left to being raised in an unhappy home.
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what she is saying is....about 6x per year, when he watches porn, the porn gets him horny and he then goes to her for release. thats it...even if they watch together, its only 6x per year.at 30 she is in her prime and I dont blame her and FYI i'm male !
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I'll be your F-buddy!
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I am a guy. Honey, I do not blame you for doing what you are planning. I did the same thing. But I ended up filing for divorce later. You will be amazed with the thrill of the novelty of planning rendevous and stealing kisses in out of the way places. The sex is sooo good too, when you are being intimate on the side. Your mind builds up the anticipation before you and your beau plan on getting together. When that day comes(again and again) the experience is awesome.I think you will like the whole experience.
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OP-We're not unhappy, we're best friends and wonderful parents. We are just completely sexually uncompatable. We have tried watching together which was fun every so often but it became a requirement, we have tried a lot of things and he just seems to be a bit deviant (he gets off every few days so I don't think its physical).
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2^ true. thrilling all the way
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^^what makes the sex uncompatable?
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is he gay?
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What is the point of being married? Be his best friend and a great parental team, but move on with your life and find a man who finds you desirable. Why would you want to stay with someone who doesn't want you physically? I am a guy, and really, not to sound mean, but no matter what he says, if he is doing what you describe...he is not into you (physically attracted). You deserve someone who wants you. Don't let him define you, you want to find a f-buddy because of his actions? Do you know how that sounds, and how sad it is? Go out and get what you deserve and do it honorably. Don't stoop so low like that. Hope you change your mind.
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oh dear girl. Who has convinced you in your lifetime that it is okay for someone to treat you this way? What is the reason you think that you are not worthy of a healthy, happy, sexually satisfying and respectful marriage? Don't you know that you are worth so much more than this type of treatment? Please talk to a mental health professional, find out what is inside of you that is clouding your judgment of who you are and what you deserve.. you are beautiful, special, kind, and compassionate. Do this for yourself, and your children...what do you have to lose? You have much to gain.
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Take it all live on Dr. Phil
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Agree with above comments...and coming from parents who tried this, didn't work, or help me in the least bit as a kid. I knew five years before my parents seperated that they were going to get a divorce. I was in 3rd grade at the time. And when they finally did I was relieved!
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Addicted to porn, photos of perfect women in magazines.. they become so desensitized that real life sexual encounters will not get them aroused. Sad. Go find someone who is into what is real and live for you, if you dont your kids will not benefit with a empty shell of a mother.
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^you're somewhat close with that, but...it's not the perfection that desensitizes. there is a lot of porn catering to men who prefer "less than perfect" women, and it has the same numbing effect. The truth is a month off the stuff, coupled with real life sex, makes one a lot less numb.
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^^i think the perfection bit has a far greater effect on women.
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To the woman who watches porn: wanna get together and watch/f*** for a few hrs?
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