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I am 28 and my husband is 56. he infered today that I am just eye candy and that I am just a dumb blonde. But I really love him.

I am 28 and my husband is 56. he infered today that I am just eye candy and that I am just a dumb blonde. But I really love him.

 
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Wow sorry to hear that. Girl its gonna be his loss so go out, have fun and find someone your own age. Thats asshole doesn't desrve a young hot girl.
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Wow sorry to hear that. Girl its gonna be his loss so go out, have fun and find someone your own age. Thats asshole doesn't desrve a young hot girl.
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He only wishes he was 28 again. Taking it out on you. Forget his tired old butt. Let him know that its not too late for you to start over.
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Ride him 'til he croaks!
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Get a good atty to look at the pre-nup and go have the time of your life!!
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So whats your phone number if that old fart can't appreciate a beautiful blonde in her prime?
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dude....BAIL!!! or make sure your on his life insurance or somthing
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forget those old balls!
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Man, what a bunch of materialistic jackasses who've commented here. I half agree with one: that he wishes he himself were younger and is a bit envious of your youth. So, if you love him, be understanding, listen to his feelings and needs underneath the snark, and be happy with the man you love. Finding someone you love isn't easy. It actually would be dumb to give that up for so-called "fun" with some jackass like the ones commenting here.
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Hi OP here. Thanks for the comments. I think the last poster is the one that understands and I will listen to. To the fourth poster There is no pre-nup. But I don't want to split up. To me that means untill death do us part.
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The OP. Well not to be rude or anything but he didn't have any problems with the way I spoke or wrote when he married me. Thats not to say that I am against improving my self. But if it bothered him before he should have said something. Don't you think?
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Leave him anf get a young man. He's too old for you.
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If you can put up with him talking to you like that, then keep in mind, it'll ONLY get worse...I know.
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He IMPLIED, you INFERRED
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dumb ass, find your self a boy toy.
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FIND YOURSELF A HOT STUD TO BE EYE-CANDY FOR. YOU WILL BE GLAD YOU DID
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Are you living with Drew Petterson???
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Sorry to hear that people go to such extremes to hurt people. When they dont know how to communicate.Dont allow the love you have for this man to ruin you like. At 28 you have a lot to live for and to love again.Work though the hards times now and move on. Better days are ahead of you i hope you find the strength to move on
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OP. To those of you that think I haven't learned anything I have. I researched why men leave their wives. Number one reason is sex and number two is cooking. I weight two pounds less now than when we married. I initiate sex and make sure we have as much or more than when we were first married. I give him oral and anal when ever he wants it. I pretty much do sexually any thing he wants. I have even gone topless at appropriate places like the swiming pool at the Rio when he asked. I sometimes get home from work before he does and I will leave a trail of clothes from the door to our bedroom. I give him head while he is driving on long trips & I just get down on him sometimes with out him even asking. And I have taken cookinh classes so that I cook better.
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I don't know either of you, however, my thoughts are... He is saying that he doesn't want nor love you the way he thought he should be loving someone. Sex and cooking are the whys after many years of marriage. I think he realizes that he made a mistake. How can you stay with someone who thinks of you this way? Even though you have tried and done your part, his statement is loud and clear that he may care about your well being, but he doesn't have the deep connection. Again, How can you keep or stay with someone who doesn't feel for you? Your very young, probably very attractive, there is more than likely a man out there who will feel that deep connection. You should really cut your losses and find that man.
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You say you don't want to split up? Yet he is saying something different. This is where the age factor falls into play. To maturely think about whats best for not only you but your husband too. If possible, really try to put your emotions aside and look at this objectively. What would you tell your best friend to do? If you have exhuasted all attempts to resuscitate something that is dead... Know when you stop.
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You've done everything HE asked you to do. Are you a puppet? You take your top off at a pool where it's appropriate. Where other's can see what he can have... EYE CANDY.. fills his ego. This makes you look like a dumb blonde, not only to him but to outsiders as well. Think about it.... You are clearly a nice girl who wants to please her husband. That is a wonderful trait to have. However, I think, the more you give into to his everywhim, the less respect you will have from him, and quite frankly, you have for yourself. It is time for you to move on.
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if you look like the girl in the picture, i am 63, i have a 12" dick, and plenty of viagra
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"if you look like the girl in the picture, i am 63, i have a 12" dick, and plenty of viagra" Did you miss the part where I said I am married?
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wasting your life on a man....poor girl
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I' 52, I'll take you in, and it would be a trade up for you.
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Even in marriage men like the challenge of the chase- you can love him but let him know you value yourself as well and as much as the love you have for him- and I believe in until death do we part too, but that does not mean you get to be looked down on, people especially men often don't realize or don't want you to how important the special people in their lives are. Make him work a little and he will appreciate it more-basic biology fact... and don't let him use you up till you are old too. we all get older too fast, enjoy your remaining 10 years of youth.
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To expand on last post, it does sound like you make it too easy on him. He should want to please you for a change. Play hard to get.
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i know who you are
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OP There are several conflicting ideas here. I have to think about all of this. I asked my mother who has been married for 40 years. She said that every marrage has some ruff spots.Work them out.
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shouldn't stay if your not appreciated to your full potential hun life's a two way street your more then a blond hes just a wrinkle bag then id move on
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OP I have also talked to a lawyer. I could take half of everything he has. And thats a LOT. But personally I don't think that it's right to do at this time,after all it was only a few words. I only went to a lawyer so that I knew where I stood. Maybe I do make it to easy on him. But I don't want him straying to some one else either. And he is extremely generous to me.
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He was probably just joking with you. I'm quite a bit older than my wife and we joke about it all the time. Relax, if you really love him and he's good to you, you are in an enviable position to many people. Joke with him about it too, lighten up.
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I am his age and I would never have a lady your age. It just is not right for a young lady at all. It is just like stealing from another generation. Kick his sorry selfish body out. He will be sexually croaked when you are in your prime.
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you are a really good person. Maybe his remark was masking his own insecurites. Maybe he thinks he has to hurt you to have more power over you and make you more dependent on him. Some people sabotage their own happiness.
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OP here We talked about this over the week end. He told me again that he would like me to quit working. He makes a lot of money and said that I would never have to work again. And he said that he doesn't like where I work. I teach arobics & Yoga. I am in a gym all day long and I do a few other things between classes. Like give new customers a tour of the place and show them how to use certain equipment. He doesn't like all the men staring at me. I told him not to worry because I chose him over them already. I am in good shape and really could have had my pick from the guys at the gym. And beside that just what would I do all day if I didn't work. So I am dressed appropriate for my job. Which does show off my figure,but I couldn't do my job in coveralls either. And to all of you that refered to him in bad ways for his age, he isn't average either he works out 5 or 6 days a week. He is tall and handsome. He looks something like the old movie star Ceaser Romero. He appologized for what he said and he promised not to try to push me to quit.
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good job staying with it
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