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You give me all I could ever ask for- love,devotion,shopping money-everything except sex.Sometimes I wonder how upset you would really be if I had an affair.

You give me all I could ever ask for- love,devotion,shopping money-everything except sex.Sometimes I wonder how upset you would really be if I had an affair.

 
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If you are getting everything BUT sex, guess what, he's cheating. ("LOL" says fate!)
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To the OP- read "the five love languages" this might give you some insight on your mate's love language. Good luck.
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It doesn't mean he's having an affair. Perhaps he some deep fear, or issue, that he is embarrassed to discuss or reveal. Perhaps he is submissive and wants you to make the moves. Perhaps he is worried about pleasing you, and he thinks material things will make up for it. There could be SO many reasons, and an affair isn't at the top of the list. OP, can you tell us what kind of discussions you've already had with him about this? I hesitate to say "get counseling" because in the limited space for your secret, you can't tell us enough. Can you elaborate?
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why dont you just talk to him about it. you never know maybe he has a problem and hes ashamed to admit to it. dont jump to conclusions as poster 1 suggests that hes cheating. the only way to know is to talk to him.
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I think it's so weird that people guess on gender. This could be a guy for all we know! These comments really reveals each person's assumptions of gender. That aside, I do think you should openly discuss how you feel about the lack of sex. Just make sure you have the talk in a safe, open environment when he/she is willing to listen. No sex is like a plant without water-it can last a long time but is really slowly dying from the inside out.
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The shopping money comment is an inside joke between us, trust me, money isn't an issue. To keep as little detailed as possible; we have talked about it, he says he doesn't know why and refuses to discuss it any further with anyone. It's been this way for many many years and I have always been faithful. And I know he's not cheating.
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I feel for you, I really do. I happen to be going through the same thing. But reading this site has shown me that there are also so many other people, men and women going through the same thing. So if you look at your friends and see how happy they are with their sexual relationships and you think, "Why am I the only one with someone who won't touch me" please know that you're not alone.
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My friends gf is the same way after she had kids she claims it hurts all of the time. She just wont do it and its making him want to cheat.
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No offense taken but no I didn't let myself go, if anything I'm in better shape and better looking now than I ever was when we first got together.
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maybe he is having some erectile disfunctions and too embarrsed to tell you.
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Thanks everyone for the support and feedback!
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He probably doesn't feel attractive.
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If it makes you want to cheat, then you need to tell that person your with your feelings and tell them that your mind is weighing the possibility of cheating to satisify your sexual needs.
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call me up
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