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My son thinks I don't love him because I live in a different state then him....How do I tell a 5 year old that he is the reason I continue to wake up every day.

My son thinks I don't love him because I live in a different state then him....How do I tell a 5 year old that he is the reason I continue to wake up every day.

 
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Just be there. He will be sad but just keep telling him you love him and you have to make sure you see him as often as possible. It helps if his father also helps by telling him the same thing. Tell him that even though its sad you don't live together there are people who have it much worse than he does.
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He only gets one chance at a childhood with you in it. Whatever it takes, move to where he is, and spend as much time as you can with him. I know about this, my dad left when I was 9 months old, and I lived in AZ and he in TX, and at age 12 we moved back to TX and I got to see him a whole lot more, until he was killed by a drunk driver in 2003. We were finally close when he died. I have a 5 year old daughter now, and I will always be in her life, and I thank God that my wife and I are 100% committed to a "no divorce allowed" marriage. In 13 years he'll be an adult, so make the next 13 years count. Trust God to provide a job and a means to get there, sell everything if you have to, your stuff is not as important as your son.
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I agree, move back to where he is. Kids don't understand that Mommy wants to shack up with someone else in another state...
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Do the best you can...but always call and tell him you love him.
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You just do, just tell him, every day, tell him, see him as much as possible, make every moment with him special and never let him think your new life is more important.
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He will hopefully understand when he is older, do your best he will see it :) good luck to you and your family.
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Get it together and get to where he is and stay there - see him everyday!! You only get one chance!!!!!
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Well it's kinda hard for a 5 yr old to understand why your needs (in a different state) are more important than he is? Good luck explaining that one for the rest of his life. Move to where he is and live in your car if you have to. HE is more important than ANYTHING you have going on where you are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Just do the best you can do. Stay in contact, send him I love you cards, be as close as you can. You don't have to move back to where your son is and live out of your car just for the sake of being close. This is the 21st century and you have a multitude of communication options available to your resource. Use them.
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Dedicate a journal to him, just jot down the thoughts you have, even if he is too young now to understand. Write stories of when you were a kid. One day it will be the best gift he has ever received. Hopefully the economy will pick up and you will have the opportunity to relocate closer.
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Makes me want to go hug my 4 yr-old and tell him shit like this will never happen to him. He's one of the lucky ones...
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^ you can lie to him if you want to.
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^ Sorry, asswipe. I'm married for life. Until his mother or I die, we will BOTH be there for him, every day. I can't help some of you dumb f***s out there never found your soulmates. We have a family; a lot of you have no idea what that even is.
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^ I have a family and I would not guarantee anything to my child...as there is no guarantees, thats what I meant. And actually you are one of the lucky ones..not him.
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Move into his town and be the parent he deserves. If you truly felt what you posted, this would be a no brainer. No more excuses, do the right thing!
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to all you a** ****s not everyone can move to a different state.you dont know the circumstances so you cant judge based on that.to the OP jus keep in contact with hin,make sure you visit as much as possible and try to invest in video chat thats how i talk to my son and his dad
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^ what a f***ed up life that is. Join the military, you too can f*** your children over.
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Try to move back home and work for less money. It is worth it. Believe me. Remember the song "Cat's Cradle"? I'm sorry it hurts so much. My son is in his twenties and moved across the country at 18 and I still miss him every day. All I think about is how I wish I would have spent more time with him. Those memories of when we did are the happiest in my life.
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I agree that you should try to move back home. You would go if he where dying, if he where sick. Feeling abandoned can make huge craters in his soul. In the mean time, write him every day and call at least once a week. Send him pictures of every day things, and tell him you wish you where there.. And really do get there with him ASAP.
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I know you love him. Now please move back home.
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I'm in your exact situation. No one knows your reasons,but I wish you the best of luck. Some of us chose to live that way, others were forced to live like this..in my case I did what was best for him and was taken advantage of. I wish everyday I would have been more careful of what documents I shouldnt have signed and not so dumb at a young age. U get my drift...
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dont be foolish move back to where he is
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tell him that exactly. just remind him always that he is loved. trust me he will know
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Move Back.God Bless
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No.Call every dayWrite once a weekAndMove BackASAP
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